Updated: Apr 5, 2019
Most couples I meet with are initially very overwhelmed by the thought of writing their own vows! But I'm pleased to tell you that it is so much easier than you think!
There is a legal requirement that must be included and that is simply the following sentence:
"In the presence of these witnesses, I (full name) take you (full name) as my wedding wife/husband"
Other than that, your vows are simply your promises to each other and they should be the things that are most important to you.
So to start with - have a think about what marriage means to you. Jot down the words that come to mind, for me its "loyalty, trust, commitment , laughter, memories, family and love"
Is it supporting each other through the good and the bad, becoming a family, creating a family? There is no wrong answer!
Here are some more suggestions to help get you started:
You are .........
the love of my life
my best friend
the light of my life
my partner for life
my one true love
the beautiful mother of my children
the most amazing woman
I want to ......
start a family with you
travel the world together
care for you and share my life with you.
grow old with you
enjoy each and every day together.
experience life together
I will .....
support your hopes
respect your needs
do my best to provide comfort and security in our life together.
be a loving husband.
respect you and care for you
grow with you and grow old with you, loving you more every day of my life
be faithful to you
respect and love you
laugh with you
cry with you
cherish you always.
stand by you, through whatever may come
love, trust and cherish you
I promise to ..........
care for you always
support you in all that you do,
help you in all that you need
share with you in all that you experience
encourage you in all that you try.
love you in all that you are.
always love you, through happy and hard times, completely and forever
cherish you and nurture our relationship
love you faithfully through the best and the worst.
give myself to you in every way
always be there for you.
place our marriage above all else.
be loyal to these words as long as we both shall live.
commit myself totally to you, encompassing all sorrows and joys that lie ahead
strive for a happy, loving life for both of us
to give you the best of myself, and to ask no more than you can give
to be faithful to you,
to keep myself open to you
to grow along with you’
I am so thankful
that I found you
for all that you do for me
for what we have
of the way you look after me
the way you look after me/ and our family
your beautiful eyes
the way you support me
your stunning smile
being silly together
everything about you
the way you can make me laugh
Pop all of these together and you have a personalised vow that flows nicely.
Don't be afraid to throw in some jokes and personality!
Have fun and enjoy the process.